WHEN THE WILL TO FIGHT ON IS GONE

Have you ever been here???

When you feel you have tried all you can and there seem to be found no solution in “trying”.

When you see the other side of life hitting you so hard that you sometimes feel the urge to fight on is gone?

It’s easy to talk about succeeding because that’s the end result we all expect. But it is even more frustrating to talk about delays, failures, pains and depression because this what no one wishes for.

Life doesn’t give us our wishes all the time. But in the quest of nearly attaining these wishes, life gives us an even greater opportunity to self discover what we have as treasure.

When the will to fight on is gone, there are two (02) things we can choose to do:

  1. Choose to remain within the confines of the wall of pain,agony, frustration and despair
  2. Or, we search for what failure is trying to teach us. We become contented that we tried. We become self-reliant for the best outcomes in our lives. We realise how long we have been strong. We discover how far we have come. We see what no one else sees within us. We embrace life in a while new angle. We stay happy even when we didn’t achieve what we wanted.

This is what happens when your will to fight on is gone:

When your will to fight on is gone, it is not because you have become weak that you can no longer fight.

It’s not because you have realised you cannot do it.

It’s not because you have realised that your efforts in that relationship is worthless.

Neither because you feel you have tried being loved and couldn’t find one.

Rather, you have come to realize that its not every battle that is yours to fight.

There are somethings we need not fight for because they don’t belong to us. No matter how hard you try, you need to realise this other side of truth.

I realised that man has a potential power that we haven’t yet been able to understand.

We don’t give up

Even in the midst of the pain and the wasted feeling we get…..and even when we say with words of mouth that we can’t rise again above the mess we are in, deep within us lie the urge to be better. This is what we are.

So…….

When the urge to fight on is gone, know you aren’t weak!

Know you are strong!

In your failures, search for the victory!

When the will to fight on is gone….

Search for what is yours to fight for….

Value is more expensive than price🌸🌸🌸

Price can be understood as the money or amount to be paid, in order to get something. Conversely,value implies the utility of worth of the commodity or service for an individual.

But I’m not talking on price and value with relation to goods or services. Rather I would talk about value and price, with respect to US as individuals.

When we talk about value…. worth always comes to mind. Everything we do in life, either adds up to our value as a person or it degrades it. We have as a duty to maintain our personal integrity and value because that’s what defines us and makes us priceless.
However there are alot of things happening around us that hit us down, making us feel we can not achieve that self confidence.

But value in this sense….is not achieved with wealth, rather it’s the value of the mind.

How can one increase his/her value??

1. Spend resource on yourself:

Ok! Here I’m not talking about going shopping, getting new clothes, cars, going out on luxurious vaccations and whatever you need to make you wow….. As important as these things may be, I am talking about spending time and money on developing your mind. Purchasing relevant books that enlightens your mind.

Spending quality time with yourself.

I know it’s important we hang out with friends…but of a truth…there comes a time…when sitting all by yourself and asking yourself a thousand questions no one would have ever asked, will do you a lot more good and make you realise how important you are.

2. Resize your social circle:

Resizing your social circle is a very important factor, if you would want to step up your value. It isn’t so because friends are bad, but because it will help you narrow down your preference. There are over billions of people in the world with different dreams and mindset. You just can’t afford to mix yourself up in the whole. Find those who relate with you at different level. Those who have a clear cut line between pleasure time and get things done time.

3. Remind yourself:

The world has its way of reminding us of how many difficult moments we have to overcome and how difficult it might be to always get what we want. But it’s imperative you tell yourself at all times that you are priceless.

A man will practice what he hears.

#Youarepriceless

#Mondaythoughts

#Happyweek🌸🌸💕💕❤🙌

Facing your Giants

Fear is the outcome of self doubt. Con trary to confidence. It’s the thought of….”what if things go wrong?”. It’s an unwanted feeling and an undesirable one at that but inevitable. It springs forth from us, yet we have that power to overcome them.

But why do we fear?…

We are afraid when outcomes are unknown and unpredictable. We become afraid when we have little or no confidence in ourselves.

However, getting through fear is a skill that anyone can learn. And I would probably say there is no general way to overcoming fears. It’s relative. At a more individualistic level, each person has this self devising strategy to battle fear.

We can’t live without fear, bc it’s an emotion. It is what makes us human. However, we can subdue it, not to blur our vision of what we tend to realize.

The problem most faced at this point is that most people cling to their fears, because it’s part of who they are.

There are two options: Facing our fears, or running away from them.

How to Start Overcoming Fear

1. Have that awareness:

We need to bring ourselves to the point of realising that fear destroys, it stagnates and it regresses our progress.

2. Identify your fears:

Know what makes you scared. What limits you. If you can’t identify your fears you can’t challenge them.

3. Challenge your fears:

As difficult as it may sound, the best way to overcome your enemy is not to run away from it but to face it. Start doing what makes you scared. Start acting upon that dream you think it’s too daring. Do one thing everyday that scares you. High achievers, regardless of occupation, understand that taking risks and massive action is a vital part in getting from where you are to where you want to go. And that goes for in life — and in business. But often these risks are met with fear, which can cause people to question their ambitions and prevent them from taking action.

The lion is not the king of the jungle because it’s large. There are larger animals than it. It is because, it is not afraid to dare….

We have that power to defeat our fears and not let it get the best of us. And above all believe conquers fear. More than anything in the world, faith and believe ward off fear and renders it meaningless.

A Letter To My Younger Self🌸🌸

Dear younger me,
You were so brave, full of life and had a sixth sense to see the good in all that happened.  You could cry, but only for a moment. You never knew how, but you always believed that everything is going to be okay!
Your courage and determination could be seen in your smiles everyday. Every single day was cherished. And if there was anything you ever believed in so strongly was yourself, which you did all the time.
While sleeping, you let your worries slip through you. And slept with such comfort that, even the midnight angels wondered on your courage.
You had no broad idea about life, yet you had to key to suceed in life. You saw everything as been possible, acheivable.  You doubted less, cried for a moment and next, giggled it out.
You could ignore anything that didn’t suit the mood you wanted to be in. You dreamt all the dreams you carried inside of you. You envisaged what you wanted to become when you get older. You saw it so clear, that it wasn’t blurred with fear, insecurity and doubt. You never knew how, but you believed it will come to pass.
You carried yourself with so much trust and confidence in those you loved. Till the point where, you never worried yourself if they will be able to provide for you. All you knew inside of you was, “My food’s gonna be on the table soon”, “I’m starting school soon”… You knew things come to those who believed.
You knew you wanted to become great! And you had so much faith in yourself that you will. You focused on what you wanted and not what you thought wasn’t going to be what you wanted.

Now, years have creeped in, and I’m lot older. There are facets about you that I miss. I thought my growth was applied to all levels. But that isn’t the case. I fear more, more sensitive to failure than I am to sucess.  I am so drained in my fear of failure that I have loosed my focus on life’s beauty. I smile, but at same time, I think on my problems. I have grown. As I had always wished to. But I realise there are phases in my life that needs the younger me. So I guess, my lessons are not ended. My point of referral is not on outsource references. I will refer to you and learn the most of which I couldn’t.
Hope to learn from you soon. As you walk in the shadows of my past, I’ll get a right to take steps back, to aim for a great leap into my future.
With much love❤❤❤

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We move on in life. But there are times we need a stop, and a rethink. We might be suprised, that the best teacher in your life, is you. There’s no other person who knows you better than you.

Be Different!!!

We live in societies where many grew up following already laid down believes and get into the stereotypical way of doing things. And once you find yourself following another course, there’s a problem with you. You’re simply being different.

It doesn’t matter how many people are involved in doing what “everyone does“, it suffices that you stand out different, singled out amongst many.

When I was growing up, I always had the passion to read Mass communication at the University. But I was found “ridiculous” even by my parents…. This sounds kind of awkward because parents are to be our number 1 source of support. But that wasn’t the case for me.

I found myself motivating myself to study what I wanted because there was no one to do so for me. It musn’t be about people!!!. Its not about pleasing people, doing what they want. Its about YOU. What your passion drives at! 

So its OK if you’re staring up that project and everyone’s telling you it makes no sense. To me, it makes more sense beacause everyone else is doing the ordinary but you are doing the extraordinary. Its a gem to be extraordinary🎆

I live in a country where employment upon completion of studies is as rare as water in a desert. The programme I so much desire to study was one hell of a profession which was pretty hard to get a job. It was a risk I took. But I followed my passion. 

Times when I felt the weight of fear on me with no one by my side telling me I did the right thing, I often burst into tears. Crying became the order of the day in my life at that point. Because, I felt standing alone. I never knew then that I was just being different!!!!

 So many thoughts ran through my mind. But I remained firm on my decission. And today, I reap the fruits of being persistent in my course! And chosen to be different.

Its risky to take up risks but it is worth it🌸Wherever we find ourselves, we should build and create. 

Opportunities will never step at your doorpost! You rather make creative steps towards them. 

If you find yourself in a broken situation, you build. You are special and wonderful just the way you are….

Love and cheers🌸💕

You got everything you need!!!

“When it seems we have lost all faith, look deep within yourself and then you will find the answer……”

Music is food for the soul

Its so amazing how the lyrics of a song speaks to ones mind and brings out the best in them…. 

Everyone in the world has question that beckons answers….. We feel the thread of pain, happiness, sorrow, joy, and in times of loss we wonder if we really made the right decissions. Tears stream down our eyes, pain lurks within our hearts, and questions probe our mind. Often than not, we are on a rush to seek answers…… Answers that’d relieve us of the weight of circumstances. But the answer we so much seek, lies just close….in our hearts💖. Its left for you to believe that you can, and you will!!!🌸🌸

You are more than enough to live a happy life. God has endowed us with a limitless self discovery potential. We are deep than what we think we are….so full of the wonders and beauties of life. Its not about THEM, its about YOU

Each and every heart has a language, it talks to us, and encourages us. Our hearts tells us the truth that at times we wouldn’t want to believe because, what our eyes see is quite different from what it tells us.

There’s no time to waste on crying..😢, make the most of your time believing and then you will find that deep long awaited smile and laughter..😄 because your dreams are calling on you, waiting on you to grab them.

Stir up the faith in yourself as you listen to Believe_Josh Groban🌸

Love you all💗💗💖

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