Find your Self (Depression talks II)

Here I am in the dead of the night, finding words to scribble down to ease the flowing distractions that comes through my mind… And then it hits me hard how powerless we seemingly become when faced with worries, but even more devastating is the fact that we can’t identify that we’ve got a struggle to deal with!

The very first indication to your mental liberation from that cage of emotional and psychological distress is when you realize that there’s some distress that needs rest!!!

An unidentified problem is an unsolved one…

Now, let me tell you guys a little about myself…

Growing up hasn’t always been the bed of roses idealistic expirience. I have had to deal with so many unpleasant things I never really thought I will…

I come from a culture that is more suppressive than expressive…

The greater challenge to find your voice, and then own up to it is a really much difficult exercise to do!!!

But I learnt through the hard way that we can’t always have to control what happens to us but we can always decide on how to react when they do!

A subjected girl in a suppressive culture living in a dominating environment… Taught that the only way to getting your identity is being attached to a man!

Sadly enough lots of young and talented women have slipped through this channel of deception and strongly believe that it’s true!!!

We are full fleshed beings(be it a man or woman) with minds of our own…. Our identities are never attached to any exterior beings. The uniqueness of you is when you become you and not someone else fashioned by critics and what someone thought you should be!!!

This greatly alters, affects and shapes attitude.

Do women alone go through this ordeal?

No, men do as well but more differently than we do.

With men it’s not suppresion but pressure!!!

The mad rush to “succeed”and the pressure that comes along with failure, because society says an unworthy man is one without a trophy ๐Ÿ†

And most times they’re disregarded because they’re considered the “stronger vessels”.

So we find them encaged within the grieves of not being successful…. True!!!

Life becomes a mad rush….. Racing to acheive…. We say we are free but indeed are everywhere in chains.

It becomes a race of compulsion when not done for the right reasons!!!!

We are all wonderful, different and unique… It is not society to define you but we do define the soceity we live in…

There’s no need to feel trapped or pressured by an external society that has no gain say in your identity…

You owe it to yourself to be whatever you want to be in life! And even when you fail…. You can always try again….

Know who you are…

Stand on that…

Believe it…

Speak out…

And it will work for you ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ

Let’s talk Depression~ Rise up from your Ashes (Part I)

In a world filled with millions of people going about their lives…. There’s always that tendency to loose your voice in the midst of so many. Flames of bitter life’s experiences have so much burnt us down to ashes…. But we need to rise up. Emerging stronger than we were and have been.

Bills not paid, job lost, loved ones gone, huge debts lying around, mortgaged properties, broken relationships, disaster staring you in the face ๐Ÿ˜” confusion in the air. Lost in the many challenges…. Are the one and one too many unwanted issues we face

Life will always hit us. And most times, it hits us so bad that we count ourselves as unfortunate to have been embraced by it.

Sometimes we may feel that there’s no worth to our many battles we fight especially when we do not heild the results we expected. But don’t give up!! For its just the weight of the world. Focus more on love around you and if you can’t find love, learn to love yourself…

The world will never be complete without you. You are worthy of love…

In one of my write ups The face Behind the veil I said:

I want the world to see me for a strong person that I am. I want to be the candle in the dark that gives hope and light to many who wallow in despair. So I’ll hide my tears not for the sake of being ashamed of being weak, but because I want the world to know me for the strong person that I am.

Errors are bound to happen and the course of our lives sometimes will end up not as it should. And that’s OK!

Dark times won’t last always…… For there’s a glory that meets the eye…lying far beyond the horizons….a hopeful lifestyle we wish we could acheive. And we will if we wish

I’ll be starting out a series on depression….

Someone out there needs hope ๐Ÿ˜€

Love ๐Ÿ˜

And a listening ear๐Ÿ‘‚

I dedicate this poem to anyone battling with depression

Rise up from your ashes

Trapped by pain, ripped off gains,

The feeling of being helpless, broken, unable, deserted and worthless comes knocking…

Instantly nothing makes sense

The glorious beam of joy gives way to the saddening darkness of the night.

Pause โธ… It creeps in…..

Into your mind…

Nothingness is all that the eyes behold…

Starring into the deep vaccum left from the bullets of pain

But you Can rise from these ashes

Unavoidable it seems,

Denting into the then memories of joy you once had.

Which now resides within the pages of your forgotten past.

Joy becomes a story once lived, once expirienced,

Recounted to console the present grief.

Burned to ashes…

All that’s left is silence…

Yet you can rise from your ashes.

we can spot the rising sun from the horizon dressing up the heavens in a beautiful aray

So we pray

Our bitterness is washed away

Never let the grudges and pains of your past define who you are and will be.

I’ll begin a series on depression and got this need when I almost lost my friend to it. Currently she’s battling and fighting to stay strong and this is dedicated to her and to all those struggling with it.

Hope you join me as we walk down this journey of knowledge….

Until then stay in the beautiful company of your loved ones, pets and friends๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ

I Need You

To you who’s reading…I need you…you are important

We may be tempted sometimes to feel and think that there are lots of things and people around us with far greater importance and in great need of our attention…than we are to ourselves.

The Earth without you and is a void and vast ball hanging in space. Nothing happens if we’re not in it.

When the many troubles of life hits you, sometimes remind yourself of how treasured you are.

We need each other. Holding on to one another .

Holding on means different things to different people in different situations. To others it means to wait or have patience…to some it means to get attached to someone or something. Whatever the case, we need each other’s support, as well as forbearance to endure and live in Harmony with each other.

At that point in our lives when the storms come hitting we need a support system… And that’s You and I.

The greatest possession of an individual is in their relationship with others.

You are needed

You are loved

Dont give up

Ups and Downs in Life!

There is so much that happens in human life. We call these expiriences. Our life is like a stage, and we, the characters in it!

We cannot have control of everything that happens to us. We cannot always choose to have the good things and avoid the bad. Bad things will happen as well as good things. It is part of our living. It is that which makes living worthwhile.

The constant expiriencing of failures gives birth to a beautiful phenomenon in human life and that’s hope!

Hoping that tomorrow will be better than today.

I sometimes wonder how will it be if we were to have all we wished for?

If life was all about merry and bliss and happiness….

I think the essence of living would have been missing!

Errors are bound to happen and the course of our lives sometimes will end up not as it should. But there’s a glory that meets the eye…lying far beyond the horizons….a hopeful lifestyle we wish we could acheive after several moments of tussling and struggling.

For it’s only after moments of battles that victory can be achieved.

We cannot change the past but we can certainly make our tomorrow beautiful! But that which stands as a barrier is Fear!

But why do we fear?…

We are afraid when outcomes are unknown and unpredictable. We become afraid when we have little or no confidence in ourselves.

However, getting through fear is a skill that anyone can learn. And I would probably say there is no general way to overcoming fears. It’s relative. At a more individualistic level, each person has this self devising strategy to battle fear.

We can’t live without fear, because it’s an emotion. It is what makes us human. However, we can subdue it, not to blur our vision of what we tend to realize.

The problem most faced at this point is that most people cling to their fears, because itโ€™s part of who they are.

There are two options: Facing our fears, or running away from them.

How to Start Overcoming Fear

1. Have that awareness:

We need to bring ourselves to the point of realising that fear destroys, it stagnates and it regresses our progress.

2. Identify your fears:

Know what makes you scared. What limits you. If you can’t identify your fears you can’t challenge them.

3. Challenge your fears:

As difficult as it may sound, the best way to overcome your enemy is not to run away from it but to face it. Start doing what makes you scared. Start acting upon that dream you think it’s too daring. Do one thing everyday that scares you. High achievers, regardless of occupation, understand that taking risks and massive action is a vital part in getting from where you are to where you want to go. And that goes for in life — and in business. But often these risks are met with fear, which can cause people to question their ambitions and prevent them from taking action.

The lion is not the king of the jungle because it’s large. There are larger animals than it. It is because, it is not afraid to dare….

We have that power to defeat our fears and not let it get the best of us. And above all believe conquers fear.