Who I want to become🌸 🌸

As days and years go by, we grow up with desires in mind of who we wish to become. We want to be someone better……we wish to let go of whatever makes us feel bad. We want to grow progressively towards the positive direction of life. We want to become someone better. We want an upgrade.

And so more often than not……our journey of life is centered on the quest to attain or arrive at the “best version of ourselves”. But what we don’t know is, we do not become someone better, we grow into someone better.

Life’s lessons, expiriences, the ups and downs, the joy, and the pain mold us, break us and reshape us. We are the very products of our daily expiriences. We don’t just live life, we learn to live and live to learn.

Everytime we get hit by life, we grow in strength to rise up again. And when we rise, we become. Growth comes with alot of changes. These changes will sometimes hurt us….it will at some point be either pleasing or hurting. But note tgat you are developping something new.

So we do not wait for tomorrow to become someone different……we become everyday of our lives….because, life brings us to the point where we ceaselessly become someone new and different through the actions we take and decisions we make.

So it’s not always about who I want to become……but who I am.

So do not wait for tomorrow to become beautiful. Begin today……learn to appreciate who are you….and you will better appreciate who you become. Because who we become depends on who we are.

It therefore starts with you, and Now.

Relationship Goals! Wednesday Motivational Quotes💪❤❤

Today has been a wonderful day and as I witnessed this day come by I had these lessons probing my mind.

I hope you enjoy as you share in with my deepest thoughts and lessons learnt!

Here’s the first lesson:

Sometimes what we need is that distance. That silence, that gap, to finally realise and see things clearly. When things are too close to us, we tend to forget it’s originality. We tend to forget it’s value. We chase after the things which are far off. …. because to us we think those are the things which are important.

But when we finally loose it….we realise just how much we had missed!

Here comes the second:

A relationship is about 2 different people working it out. It requires work.

Here’s the third:

Our happiness starts with us. I will always say….

If you can’t be happy while single, you won’t be when you finally meet a partner.

There’s no perfect “hero”…neither is there any perfect human. We are all so full of imperfections. We are self-centered at times and want people to understand us, with little bearing on how others are yearning that they should be understood too!!!

But when it comes to love…..it sees what no one else does…

It sees the good in the bad…

It accepts who you for who you are not..

Because it is impartial…

It qualifies even when everyone’s else disqualifies….

It’s unconditional and doesn’t keep record of wrongs….

Love is the purest feeling….❤

Capable of resusitating the good in a person.

It’s a beautiful feeling.

Keep loving❤❤❤❤

Happy wednesday

At the other side of the wall….

A wall is an artificial defense mechanism put in place by man, to secure and protect what he has. It equally defines the territory or sphere of influence of the owner.

But we’ll be looking at the wall, not as a protective mechanism, but as a barrier. To be more precised, a mental barrier.

At the other side of the wall, we have a world we have dreamt of for so long. Yet, we seem to be afar off from it a million miles because our minds are blocked……

We think that we can’t achieve..

We can’t get there…….

It takes too long….

It can’t be done…

We immediately limit ourselves within the confines of our so called protective mental wall.

The climb might seem too tough. We might feel we are not good enough to complete it. But as I would always say..

There is and will never be another you…

Life’s walls may have blocked us from seeing the other side of life. We may have dwelt far too long where we are. It’s time we make the change.

It’s time we take the step towards our victory of crossing over every pain, and challenge.

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Facing your Giants

Fear is the outcome of self doubt. Con trary to confidence. It’s the thought of….”what if things go wrong?”. It’s an unwanted feeling and an undesirable one at that but inevitable. It springs forth from us, yet we have that power to overcome them.

But why do we fear?…

We are afraid when outcomes are unknown and unpredictable. We become afraid when we have little or no confidence in ourselves.

However, getting through fear is a skill that anyone can learn. And I would probably say there is no general way to overcoming fears. It’s relative. At a more individualistic level, each person has this self devising strategy to battle fear.

We can’t live without fear, bc it’s an emotion. It is what makes us human. However, we can subdue it, not to blur our vision of what we tend to realize.

The problem most faced at this point is that most people cling to their fears, because it’s part of who they are.

There are two options: Facing our fears, or running away from them.

How to Start Overcoming Fear

1. Have that awareness:

We need to bring ourselves to the point of realising that fear destroys, it stagnates and it regresses our progress.

2. Identify your fears:

Know what makes you scared. What limits you. If you can’t identify your fears you can’t challenge them.

3. Challenge your fears:

As difficult as it may sound, the best way to overcome your enemy is not to run away from it but to face it. Start doing what makes you scared. Start acting upon that dream you think it’s too daring. Do one thing everyday that scares you. High achievers, regardless of occupation, understand that taking risks and massive action is a vital part in getting from where you are to where you want to go. And that goes for in life — and in business. But often these risks are met with fear, which can cause people to question their ambitions and prevent them from taking action.

The lion is not the king of the jungle because it’s large. There are larger animals than it. It is because, it is not afraid to dare….

We have that power to defeat our fears and not let it get the best of us. And above all believe conquers fear. More than anything in the world, faith and believe ward off fear and renders it meaningless.

Fighting against all odds

I’ll fight to the very last breath I have…”
We fight odds every single day of our lives. These odds are sometimes thrown at us from without….But I think the greatest odds are those from within.
I grew up hearing that a stab in the back made by an acquaintance is nothing compared to a stab in the face made by those you love.
Odds are anything that stands in your way to getting where you want to be. To some, these odds are habits, I mean…nasty ones, to others, these odds are family. This sounds quite weird but there’s a time unacceptable truth slaps you, right in the face to accept it. To others, these odds are enemies.
At times these odds just come pushing, and pushing you so hard, that you feel the strength you thought you had, is nothing compared to the wasted feeling you get of yourself_The hurts.
And then you cry, till you groan. That feeling of pain sterming right from your heart. “And then you cry not because you are weak…but because you have been strong for too long”
I am currently going through what I’ll call the worst phase of my life. A time where a mix of hard decisions are starring right in my face. A time where I self evaluate myself and realise certain truths, I’ll want to call them lies.
Have you ever been there, when you refuse the reality of things??
I just want to wake up and feel the lines of my life falling into pleasant places. But that’s not what I see now. I’m fighting my odds. So hard, that I loose my motivation to fight.
I write motivational posts….but I have been in situations where my drive and determination that I thought I had, failed me.
Then I’m still left with myself. Just “ME”. Looking at me and myself. I still have to do what I can….even when I can’t do it. I still need to press on…even when I don’t know where I’m going to have such strength to move on….
It is a battle within my life. I’m fighting a fight that requires strength. But I don’t know where I’m going to have that!
What’s my lesson?

I often hear people say don’t cry….be strong….
But I’ll tell you…cry…and cry…out all you’ve got. Cry out the pain, that helpless feeling, that stress, those worries…..Get angry…not at yourself…but at where you are.
For in your anger of where you are will stern the courage you need to fight with for a better you.
There are no odds you can’t defeat….
I say these to myself. I motivate myself
Because I have learnt, that we never stop learning.
As you fight on remember, you are your coach. The victory lies within you…search it and you’ll find it.

Love you all ❤❤❤❤❤


Shades of friendship

Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people. Friendship is a stronger form of interpersonal bond.

We often tend to associate or identify ourselves with people who share same views in life like us, and why not same principles. Friendship is a great gift, and has alot contributing to the healthy(physical, emotional and pshycological) state of a person.

Every friendship has something it offers. That’s why we just can’t get enough of having friends around us. But the proximity of someone to your heart determines what kind of friend they are.

1. The Heart friends:

This probably sounds weird because I just formulated the word. But these are those who feel more like a family to you.These are the people closest to you, those you call first when something important happens, those you love even when they not worth it, who make speeches at your wedding, whose best and worst sides you know through and through, and whose relationship with you is eternal—even if you go months or years without hanging out, nothing has changed when you find yourself together again. They’re those who will remain with you despite the odds. They are friends for a lifetime.

2. Part time friends

Okay….Just as it sounds these are those who are seasonal. But doesn’t discard the fact that they aren’t loyal. Of course they are…but they come in when asked to. But in trying times….they’re likely to let you flat or stick by you. It’s in their nature to be seasonal.

3. Benefit friends

They are your friends because there’s something they need. This doesn’t mean they are mean or bad. NO! It just happens you have something they’re in need of and the only way to get that is to get close to you.

Why I wrote on friendship

This doesn’t actually match in line with most of my posts since they’re motivational. But I looked at relationship and understanding persons. This has really been a problem to many.

Everyone in your life has a role to play whether good or bad. We seek to understand people but the truth is we never will. We accept their behaviors and give a closed eye to their weaknesses. I’m not being pessimistic but we will never be able to understand someone’s weakness or fault whether intentional or unintentional because our human mind is not receptive to things that hurt it. That’s why we resort to “shedding tears” and “feeling hurt”.

How do you cope with people??

I have had alot of expirience here….some of which made me cry, others happy and others very depressing. But as time went on I learnt these:

1. Cry as much as you can. If you get hurt by a friend let it all out. It’s teaching you to be wise in dealing with people.

2. Never avoid them. It’s normal to Chove from those who hurt you. But they’re teaching you to be strong.

3. Never talk back. This is really hard. But it’d make you the better person.

4. Show them love. You become a transformer and changer. You will influence their behaviour.

Those who betray you teach you to be wise

Those who hurt you teach you to be strong

Those who abandon you teach you to be independent

Those who love you teach you to love

They are just shades of friendship

Your Attitude will Determine your Altitude…

Here’s a little “morningvation” for us all. The attitude start with in the morning, determines how our day will be. That’s the power of a positive mindframe. The attitude we potray faced with adversity will determine how high we will overcome that problem.

Truth is, life’s good. But that doesn’t mean because life’s good…..there’s the absence of problem. Relatively…I think problems give a certain beauty to life. They’re unexpected, and usually takes us unawares, helping us to realise and discover our internalized talents and strength to resist.

We will never know what we don’t expirience

How do you react?? I get sometimes defeated way before the war is waged. But no one defeated me but myself. That attitude resulted to how far I could think of going. We are limitless. You can achieve what you want to. But it takes a push…..not just little but harder to realize how greatly endowed you are. And that’s keeping the right attitude in the midst of the storm.

It’s actually more difficult to do than it sounds but it’s not impossible. What stands between us and our goals is fear…. I tell u, this word is able to hold you hostage for years asking questions when you would have accomplished what you wanted.

But we shouldn’t forget that fear is part of our emotions. It eminates from us and so we have the power to subdue it. And you have that power.

Don’t give up because if you do, you are actually giving up on yourself.

Always remember to score a high jump….you need to gather your momentum and propell yourself beyond what you think are your limits.