Shades of friendship

Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people. Friendship is a stronger form of interpersonal bond.

We often tend to associate or identify ourselves with people who share same views in life like us, and why not same principles. Friendship is a great gift, and has alot contributing to the healthy(physical, emotional and pshycological) state of a person.

Every friendship has something it offers. That’s why we just can’t get enough of having friends around us. But the proximity of someone to your heart determines what kind of friend they are.

1. The Heart friends:

This probably sounds weird because I just formulated the word. But these are those who feel more like a family to you.These are the people closest to you, those you call first when something important happens, those you love even when they not worth it, who make speeches at your wedding, whose best and worst sides you know through and through, and whose relationship with you is eternal—even if you go months or years without hanging out, nothing has changed when you find yourself together again. They’re those who will remain with you despite the odds. They are friends for a lifetime.

2. Part time friends

Okay….Just as it sounds these are those who are seasonal. But doesn’t discard the fact that they aren’t loyal. Of course they are…but they come in when asked to. But in trying times….they’re likely to let you flat or stick by you. It’s in their nature to be seasonal.

3. Benefit friends

They are your friends because there’s something they need. This doesn’t mean they are mean or bad. NO! It just happens you have something they’re in need of and the only way to get that is to get close to you.

Why I wrote on friendship

This doesn’t actually match in line with most of my posts since they’re motivational. But I looked at relationship and understanding persons. This has really been a problem to many.

Everyone in your life has a role to play whether good or bad. We seek to understand people but the truth is we never will. We accept their behaviors and give a closed eye to their weaknesses. I’m not being pessimistic but we will never be able to understand someone’s weakness or fault whether intentional or unintentional because our human mind is not receptive to things that hurt it. That’s why we resort to “shedding tears” and “feeling hurt”.

How do you cope with people??

I have had alot of expirience here….some of which made me cry, others happy and others very depressing. But as time went on I learnt these:

1. Cry as much as you can. If you get hurt by a friend let it all out. It’s teaching you to be wise in dealing with people.

2. Never avoid them. It’s normal to Chove from those who hurt you. But they’re teaching you to be strong.

3. Never talk back. This is really hard. But it’d make you the better person.

4. Show them love. You become a transformer and changer. You will influence their behaviour.

Those who betray you teach you to be wise

Those who hurt you teach you to be strong

Those who abandon you teach you to be independent

Those who love you teach you to love

They are just shades of friendship